It absolutely blows my mind when I hear about grown adults living off their parents. Asking for help from your parents when you are going through a tough time is one thing, but living off your parents is a whole other topic.
Work for what you want and enjoy what you have
I come from a family where you do what it takes to live. If you don’t have enough money to live you get a second job. If you don’t have money to buy food you cut your monthly expenses. I completely don’t understand adults who rely on their parents financially.
The reason I disagree with parents who pay their kids way is because I work hard for what I have. Actually I’ve had two jobs since I was 16 and for that reason I really hate people who take advantage of other people. I also hate people who don’t take responsibility for their own lives. If you knew your parents would always bail you out would you flake out on your backup plans?
It’s up to a parent to say no
I have clients who just can’t say no to their kids; even though their kids are adults in their 30s and 40s they just won’t cut off their children financially. My clients still make credit card payments for their kids, pay their rent and give them money for groceries.
If someone is going through financial difficulties it’s OK to ask your family and friends for help. But I don’t think it’s OK for adults in their 30s and 40s to live off their parents and think it’s normal.
One could argue that these two women are financially dependent on their mother because she enables them. If my Dad’s girlfriend always bails out her kids when they need money with no questions asked then she is only sending the message that their behaviour is OK.
As a parent there is a fine line between wanting to help your kids and teaching them how to be an adult. This is why more parents need to teach their kids about money management from a very young age.
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Originally published for Dinks Finance